#2. “Learn something from him,” they say (Let’s talk about Sharmaji ka beta)

There he is, the famous  “ Sharmaji ka beta”. Why don’t you learn something from him? How hardworking he is. Always topper in class. He's going to make it to IIT. He doesn’t have stupid friends as you have. Where were you wandering like a beggar? See him, he never goes out without his parents permission. 

How good he is…

Well behaved…

Well mannered…

Well dressed…

For decades, Sharmaji’s son is giving sleepless nights to all the other sons around the world. Sharmaji would be replaced with Iyer, Bhattacharya, Patel, John etcetera according to the location. Names or surnames doesn't matter, parents need only an example. That’s it.

Everyone knows that it is wrong to compare your child with somebody else. Seldom has it had positive effect on the child. Still, knowingly or unknowingly, it continues to happen. Even the same parents who are comparing you with Sharmaji’s son had to face this. 

They were also irritated when they were compared with Sharma, Verma or Sudama’s son. But they changed with time. Time has erased that feeling, the itchy prickling, from their memory. Therefore, they cannot understand how it feels anymore. 

The bottom line is “neither you can replace your parents nor are they going to change.”

Then…?

The easiest (or toughest?) way to tackle it is to change your inner-self. Easy, because you can do it without any external support. Tough because you cannot expect an external help. You have to get into the root and correct yourself.  

You try to become like him. Do the things as he does. Try to perform better than him. Behave the way he does. And your parents would be happy.

But, is that right?

No.

Is that the way?

No.

Can you be like him ever?

Of course, not.

Each person has his own identity, his own way of dealing with things. The way two persons fingerprints are not same, no two persons can be same. 

Identify your field of perfection. Identify your inner calling. Believe in it. Go ahead. Dream of becoming a master in it. 

Your achievements would be enough to silence your critiques. Be it your parents or siblings. Show them that if I am weak in that I am strong in this. Every other betas would vanish in the glint of your success.  

By the way, AR Rahman can never be Leonardo DiCaprio. Neither vice versa.